The Opportunity Cost of Not Taking Yourself Seriously

8 Apr

You have ideas, right? A new way to do an old thing? A new project you’ve thought about launching? A new blog you want to get going?

You know what I’ve been wondering lately, what’s the difference between people who make change and those who don’t? Here’s something I’ve noticed over the years.

Everyone has ideas.
Some people take their ideas seriously, some don’t.
Of those who do, some people can handle failure and course correction and some can’t.
The end.

Opportunity Cost is a key concept in economics and is defined as “the next-best choice available to someone who has chosen between several mutually exclusive choices.” In other words, opportunity cost depicts the relationship between choice and scarcity. There is no scarcity of ideas, only scarcity of ideas being taken seriously. Do you take your ideas seriously? Oh and by the way, this is not simply a conversation for entrepreneurs.

The thing about ideas is that your first thought may not be “it”, but if you follow that thought, the trajectory might lead you in a new and unanticipated direction.

Let me tell you a story.

I love Shakespeare. Not because it’s classical, but because it’s universal. Many years ago, I started my first company. It was a professional theatre company. We did Shakespeare. I always hated the fact (and still do) that Shakespeare is portrayed as a boring and irrelevant relic. Our mission was to make Shakespeare relevant to common folks like us. We decided to try to pull a coup d’etat on the world of theatre. No English accents. No leotards. No boring. We did all sorts of crazy stuff. We built a cast of passionate people who had never stepped on a stage. We performed plays in warehouse bays in the “ghetto”. We forced the audience to enter our world. We mixed original language with modern mannerisms. Every serious theatre person in our community hated us. We hated them right back. We did it our way. We made our poetry. We made exactly zero dollars and loved every single, solitary moment we were doing it. But most people, they didn’t take us too seriously.

Let me tell you another story.

I still love Shakespeare. So much so, that I have traveled to his hometown, Stratford-upon-Avon, about every 6 months for the past two years. Our company does some work in London, Stratford is pretty close, so it makes this possible. When Melissa and I go, we try to get away from doing work and take some time to dream about what work could be. Some of our best ideas have come from our “dreaming” time in Stratford. Anyways, so I was there about a month ago. Somehow, I got into a conversation with a local about what I do and what my company does. He said that the Shakespeare Birthplace Trust could use a company like ours. This is “The” Shakespeare Trust. They own and operate all the Shakespearean properties (ie where he was born, where he died, etc), they possess the collection of manuscripts of his plays, tons of stuff. I tell him they could definitely being doing better. Actually, I told him that “Shakespeare would be rolling over in his grave if he could see their current website”. The local tells me, “if you are confident in your idea of what they could be doing better, you should give them a call.” So I did. Seven meetings later and after having beat out about twenty other agencies, they are our newest client.

You know what they said they really love about us? That we had actually produced Shakespeare. Not many creative agencies can say that. In my final presentation, I actually included images of the old posters of the plays we had produced.

You know what I really love about them? Their new mission (as of this year) is to make Shakespeare accessible and relevant for people of every demographic the world over, and they want to use the new web to do it.

Believe this. There is an opportunity cost associated with every time that you have an idea pop in your head and don’t muster the self confidence to take it seriously.

Here’s a few tips that I hope will help you:

1. Always carry a notebook.

I use a tiny Moleskine as my idea notebook. I jot down every business idea, prospect idea, project idea, potential blog post, whatever. Every single thing my company has done can be traced to one of my notebooks.

2. Spend at least one hour a week dreaming or “sketching”.

Melissa and I travel a ton. But no matter where we are in the world, on Sunday afternoons, we shut everything off and talk about the ideas we’ve had that week. Sometimes, I’ll take the time to start sketching out or mind-mapping an idea we’ve already started playing with.

3. DO NOT seek validation.

Let me drop an ancient verity on you, “a prophet has no honor in his hometown”. In other words, most of the people around you, you’re friends and family, they are never going to take you or your ideas too seriously. Some of my friends laughed at me when I said I was starting The LaC Project. A year later, they’re not laughing anymore. It’s not that they’re bad people, its that they have constructed a neat little box containing all their presuppositions about everything you could possibly accomplish. If you seek validation from this group before moving forward, you will never go anywhere.

You have great ideas. Some of them can become something. If you’re willing to push through the ones that won’t. There is no magic to it.

At the end of the day, 9 years ago I could not create a sustainable business model around a local scrappy theatre company reintroducing the world to Shakespeare. But 14 days from today, I’m flying back to his hometown, and will help craft a creative strategy to do just that using social media and emerging technology.

Here’s the takeway:

Don’t expect anyone to take you seriously before you take yourself seriously.

So, do you take your ideas seriously?

Photo Credit: seretuaccidente

  • http://twitter.com/ssmirnov Stephanie Smirnov

    Love this post. Lots to learn about nurturing creativity, turning ideas into action, even winning new business. I have *too* many ideas and, it seems the ones that actually get activated are the ones connected to a business imperative at my agency. But the ideas that are about my personal blog, or even “nice to have” ideas for work — they don't seem to happen. Not enough time, energy, resources….and that's a shame, because they tend to be the more soul-satisfying ideas ;)

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Thanks for the kind words, Stephanie! I hear ya, people of creativity (like you) have so many ideas, it's hard to decide which ones to act upon. And usually the ones that make the most business impact win, which is great! But, the inherent value of those quiet ideas that lie dormant in our hearts, those are the ones that change the trajectory of our lives for the better. Twitterkids was one of those ideas :)

    Cannot express to you how grateful I am that you stopped by to read and comment today!

  • melissaleon

    It is quite funny how things you do in the past that seemed ridiculous and pointless end up helping you later in life.

    The thing I identify with most is your last point, a prophet has no honor in his hometown. Its so true, I guess when people know you for so long they cannot help but see the person they think you should be or the person you were. This happens with my younger brother who is now a successful plumber in NYC, but when he goes home my family barely trust that he knows how to unclog a toilet.

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Haha, love that, and its SO true about Brian!! Thanks for the comment, lady :)

  • http://twitter.com/oline73 George Haines

    Another great post, AJ!
    This is all about believing in yourself and having the mental stamina to fight past negativity.
    The most rewarding part is when the negative people can't even remember telling you it wouldn't work because it seems like such an obvious success.
    I love it. Thanks for the boost!

  • http://twitter.com/Moptopp Jane Griffin

    AJ this is a seriously inspirational post and like Melissa I think your last point might be the key. So many people live with that fear of failure, we have it ingrained into us as kids, not to get bad grades, to get the “right” job, to not disappoint. Many people, and I'm definitely including myself in this, waste years trying not to disappoint when we should be getting out there and doing what we're passionate about, and yeah sometimes we'll fail but you learn from that and keep pushing. Once you manage to release yourself from the expectations of others it's much easier to take your own ideas seriously and once you do I think you're giving yourself not only a chance at being successful but also at really enjoying both sides of the life/work divide.

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Thanks, George! I hear ya, bro. Most of my naysayers now act as if they were encouraging from the very first. Thank you, bro, for stopping by, taking the time to read and comment!

  • http://twitter.com/MikeWigmore Mike Wigmore

    I stopped reading as soon as I saw the words “I love Shakespeare” :)

    Kidding, congrats on the Shakespeare birthplace trust, can't wait to see what you do with it, you're right it is hurting.

    I'm taking away from this that taking my ideas seriously means taking actionable steps to making these ideas a reality. If that's the case you're asking a lot from me here. ha
    I think I'm going to try the Sunday afternoon mindmap idea, it's obviously working wonders for you.

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Jane, I feel the same way. I spent a long time trying “not to disappoint”. I love this, “Once you manage to release yourself from the expectations of others it's much easier to take your own ideas seriously and once you do I think you're giving yourself not only a chance at being successful but also at really enjoying both sides of the life/work divide.” That says it all. Thank you as always for your great insight, Jane :)

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Haha. Thanks for the congrats, we're pretty excited about it!

    Yeah, I'm telling you, on Sunday's – bunch and my notepad, and I'm in heaven.

    Thanks for stopping by to share your thoughts, Mike!

  • kari023

    I failed at #3 DO NOT seek validation. In December, after you motivated me to start KS Kafe, I wanted to startup as a mobile food truck. My husband and sister laughed their asses off at me. Within a month, after the launch of Latin Burger by Ingrid Hoffman and awareness of other existing food trucks, it was all over the news and internet. It's the “new craze” in Miami… and that could have been me if I wasn't dumb enough to listen to the naysayers.

    BTW – If I sound angry… it's because I am! lol

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    You know what, though. Remember, there are no shortage of good ideas, that “aha” moment will come again soon. And now you are armed for it. The worst is when we continue the same ole cycle.

    PS I'm proud of you :)

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  • http://davidhorne.me david horne

    AJ, so true. it seems to me ideas we take seriously have action and a sense of urgency to them. We attach a “why” we want it to the idea we create. Thanks for sharing your ideas with us.

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    It's so funny, the years between the Theatre and our company were dark years for me. For some reason, I didn't take myself seriously anymore. The past 2 years have really been something … glad to be on the other side. And I'm glad that you actually stop by to read and share :) Thanks David!

  • MikeSmithDev

    Refreshing post… I like your perspective!

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Thanks a ton, Mike, I appreciate the kind words and really appreciate you taking the time to read and comment :)

  • http://www.facebook.com/mayapaveza Maya Paveza

    Wow! Sorry it took me a few days to get here to post my comment, but AJ you knocked the ball out of the park. As many others have said, the final point is the most poignant to me. I too carry a notebook, or if I forget my notebook, email myself or take notes on my blackberry (the memo pad is a mess of notes over the last two years). I feel as though I have become a victim to those around me, asking and seeking, validation in what I want to do and how I want to go about doing it, rather than trusting my own instincts which I know are often right.
    I am an instinctive sort of person. In the last few years my direction has been changed by a lot of my new friends via social media, and watching what they are doing and where things are headed, evolution is fascinating to me. I try to keep my regrets front of mind so I don't add to that list. I “retired” from high tech in 2001, and that is the number one regret. I didn't take my ideas seriously back then, if I had it would be a very different comment right now. So as I try to recover, I am taking my ideas seriously, or trying to, those I have time for (with a full-time career, and a family it is difficult for Mommy to have any free time), but I am finding time where I didn't realize I had it and re-prioritizing my life.
    I am tired of the “no you can't” people in my life, and have some very wonderful creative friends who are supportive of me and my confidence, even if I don't share every idea, I know my friends well enough to do that “what would _____ say if I told them?” the answer is usually a “great”, “awesome”, “yes” and so on.
    One of the things in my notebook… a list of what I am changing in the future, and the sub-list of that is the how-to. Those ideas are very serious.
    I take my ideas seriously, but never myself. I like laughing at myself too much.
    Thanks AJ! As usual you are quite the inspiration. Congrats on the Shakespeare account, that is fabulous!!! Well done. Look forward to meeting you and Melissa at 140. (sorry I didn't post via twitter, couldn't risk the Tweet).

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Funny thing is your comment is more insightful than my post! There was a dark period between my hippie theatre days and where I'm at now that I sought validation at every turn and didn't take myself or my ideas too seriously. I know what it's like. Not anymore. I'm glad you made the distinction between taking “your ideas” and “yourself” seriously. There is indeed a difference.

    Thank you SO much for stopping by to share this with me, Maya, you literally made my day :)

  • http://twitter.com/CheeseKing Cheese King

    Been thinking about this post for a while now, and all I can say is, yes! Thank you for this post.

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Thank you for reading and taking the time to comment, bud :)

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  • http://twitter.com/EdwardsMarc Marc Edwards

    You hit the nail on the head! I have hundreds (or more) ideas going through my head each day. And through the years, I started telling others about these ideas and they always discredited them by saying things like, “That couldn't work,” or they would disassociate themselves from me with feigning smiles, a step backwards and statements like, “Well you tell me how that goes.” And to be honest, I've done it to other's myself. You're right when you requote Jesus, “a prophet is not welcomed in his home town. The biggest problems is when I start internalizing this behavior and doing it to myself. I just started seeing lately how I've internalized this behavior and I'm trying to break out of it. This is definitely rereadable!

    I really liked with your ending strophe with the three tips. It was tangible and practical, in fact I do some similar things. But I do have a question I struggle with, “what ideas do you lean towards doing?” Are they the ones that excite you the most or are they the ones that make the most sense? Or do you do the ones that fall within a personal/professional mission or purpose?

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Thanks foe the kind words and for stopping by the blog Marc!

    I think that's something all creative people struggle with … which one of our gazillion ideas should we tackle. I think that working on projects “that fall within a personal/profession mission” is a great idea, bro! Kinda mad I didn't state that in my post.

    The most important thing is to not get overwhelmed and to just “do” one of them at first. After all, a car in motion is a hell of a lot easier to steer :)

  • http://marcedwards.blogspot.com/ Marc Edwards

    You hit the nail on the head! I have hundreds (or more) ideas going through my head each day. And through the years, I started telling others about these ideas and they always discredited them by saying things like, “That couldn't work,” or they would disassociate themselves from me with feigning smiles, a step backwards and statements like, “Well you tell me how that goes.” And to be honest, I've done it to other's myself. You're right when you requote Jesus, “a prophet is not welcomed in his home town. The biggest problems is when I start internalizing this behavior and doing it to myself. I just started seeing lately how I've internalized this behavior and I'm trying to break out of it. This is definitely rereadable!

    I really liked with your ending strophe with the three tips. It was tangible and practical, in fact I do some similar things. But I do have a question I struggle with, “what ideas do you lean towards doing?” Are they the ones that excite you the most or are they the ones that make the most sense? Or do you do the ones that fall within a personal/professional mission or purpose?

  • http://ajleon.me/ ajleon

    Thanks foe the kind words and for stopping by the blog Marc!

    I think that's something all creative people struggle with … which one of our gazillion ideas should we tackle. I think that working on projects “that fall within a personal/profession mission” is a great idea, bro! Kinda mad I didn't state that in my post.

    The most important thing is to not get overwhelmed and to just “do” one of them at first. After all, a car in motion is a hell of a lot easier to steer :)

  • http://globalhopenetwork.org/ Naomi Schalm

    This is SOOOOO GOOOOOD AJ, thanks man for the inspiration. Definitely going to share this.

  • http://ajleon.me ajleon

    You are so very welcome, Naomi! Thanks for stopping by the blog. :)

  • Anonymous

    Really enjoyed reading over this post. Thanks for the inspiration. This post reminds me of the Shakespeare my Dad used to quote, “Doubts are traitors that make us lose the good we oft my win by fearing to attempt.”

  • http://ajleon.me ajleon

    Thanks for the kind words, Scott, really appreciate that. I love that Shakespeare quote, its from Measure for Measure, its one of my favorites. Really appreciate you stopping by the blog and taking the time to share that with us. :)

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  • http://www.LittleStepsAlongTheWay.com Amanda

    Yes, perfect for where I am.”There is no scarcity of ideas. Only scarcity of ideas taken seriously.” I will respect my ideas. And I already have a list, and a journal/notebooks full of them, and have started moving ahead in my own little ways….thanks for the encouragement. I read this right when I needed it, although you wrote it months ago. How great is that?

  • http://ajleon.me ajleon

    You’re very welcome. Just remember, don’t make the mistake I made early on and try to work on too many at one time. Choose one (or maybe two) that are the most viable and focus your creative and emotional energy there. Glad I could be a little encouragement, gotta love the serendipity of the interwebs. :)